tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637135014554458663.post5435794933231620695..comments2023-03-30T04:36:28.849-07:00Comments on Good Mommy/Bad Mommy: Einstein Never Used Flash CardsLa Yenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15044092297673361855noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637135014554458663.post-6915255831288558682007-04-23T09:26:00.000-07:002007-04-23T09:26:00.000-07:00I think it's all about the "one-size" doesn't fit ...I think it's all about the "one-size" doesn't fit all that CW mentions. We need to not look down our noses at parenting (unless it's neglectful, dangerous...you know the drill) but also not begrudge those that do more than we do. <BR/><BR/>Every kid is different... as long as we pay attention to where they are developing and all that...<BR/><BR/>Same goes for each parent... we are all at different stages, emotionally, financially, physically. AND... as long as we're not harming our kids... and we're doing our best... that's all we can ask.QueenScarletthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02270993732115125040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637135014554458663.post-38565216635007780982007-04-22T06:30:00.000-07:002007-04-22T06:30:00.000-07:00I agree with all of you. Some types of advice can ...I agree with all of you. Some types of advice can be helpful, but following a one-size fits all manual is like trying to use the same owner's manual for a Toyota, a Ford and a Saturn. <BR/><BR/>There is a reason we are blessed with both instincts and intuition.<BR/><BR/>And that is all the more reason we shouldn't judge one another from our own perspectives.<BR/><BR/>La Yen, I have pondered much over the incessant messages from the world about what is meaningul. Oddly, never more than when I went back to work after all my children went to school. And alarmingly, sometimes the message doesn't come from the world, but rather from close friends and family who should know better and from inside my own head. I should know better!<BR/><BR/>Anyway, you pose some great questions here.dalenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13414972890937798371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637135014554458663.post-25329597466284888862007-04-21T19:05:00.000-07:002007-04-21T19:05:00.000-07:00Half naked? I have one that won't wear clothes unl...Half naked? I have one that won't wear clothes unless I bribe him. Mostly he's in just a diaper all day.<BR/><BR/>I get sucked into "expert" advice about everything- child rearing, cooking, exercise, etc. I think it's all noise. It makes me lose focus. Thanks for digging up the quote on preschool. I only hope my motherly influence will be a good one...sarah k.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18443012372866539495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637135014554458663.post-794512687839100012007-04-21T14:06:00.000-07:002007-04-21T14:06:00.000-07:00Interesting for me is the notion that after the wo...Interesting for me is the notion that after the women came home from working they needed to feel that what they were doing was meaningful. That, for me, is one of the hardest parts of the Good Mommy/Bad Mommy conundrum: I truly enjoy working but I know it is better for my family if I stay at home. So I DO find myself seeking "enrichment" and things for Jooj just so that I can feel like I AM "legitimately" contributing. <BR/>Stupid WW2--making me see what fun it would be to rivet instead of baking pies and beating children all day. and Stupid Experts for telling me that I can have it all.La Yenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15044092297673361855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8637135014554458663.post-91351311432244518782007-04-21T13:12:00.000-07:002007-04-21T13:12:00.000-07:00I've learned in my short time of being a mother th...I've learned in my short time of being a mother that experts can't hold a candle to what you think is best for your child. <BR/><BR/>Experts are good for technical advice. Experts do a poor job of replacing the role of moms and grandmothers in parenting. Some of the best advice I ever received came from my mom. Some of the worst advice I received came from an expert Doctor. <BR/><BR/>I have read a number of books and have learned to take everything with a grain of salt. I liked Baby 411 since it was practical advice and NOT parenting advice. Everything else I read was pushed through my filter (because I'm the mom and I know best.)Carinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13859567470814286102noreply@blogger.com