Monday, October 12, 2009

on braids and body image

this is--after a fashion--my homework.

disclaimer: i do know how to french braid. it's just that having two boys first didn't give me much practice to prepare for a girl who can't sit still long enough for me to get it right. i could do it with practice. really, i could.

14-year-old daughter, looking at her funky not-a-french-braid: too bad someone around here doesn't know how to french braid!


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14-year-old daughter: don't you think my hair looks cute like this?

me: yes. but i think you look cute no matter how your hair is.

14-year-old daughter: i know.

i raise my eyebrow...

14-year-old daughter, looking right at me: but aren't you glad i'm not one of those "no i don't. these make me look fat. i'm not pretty..." kind of girls?

me: you got that right!



maybe she would have come out that way anyway. but maybe my making it a point not to disparage myself--my body--out loud helps her a little. i hope so. it would kind of make up for that not being able to french braid thing.

8 comments:

sue-donym said...

But are you putting baby powder in her hair? That is significant.

Travelin'Oma said...

I think you've got a confident woman in the making. Congratulations! You're doing it right!

Queen Scarlett said...

LOVE THIS.

Amy said...

LOVE it.

Geo said...

Self-assurance trumps French braids any day.

Kalli Ko said...

She's all yours...

also, I think I would like to be a contributor on this here site. Today I fed my kid the following: pomegranate seeds, banana, chicken nuggets, pirates booty, a hot dog and yogurt.
And those are my qualifications.
I'll wait for your response...

La Yen said...

Dude. When can I come over to dinner at your house?

Catherine said...

I know I'm not a mom yet, and this has nothing to do with hair. However, I was babysitting and about to explode when I looked at a plaque above this mothers sink which read, " I figure if the kids are alive at the end of the day I've done my job!"
Just thought I'd share. :)
And something about hair, a fellow blogger: www.shedoeshair.blogspot.com
I hope they help!! Be careful they are very addicting!